As this year looms ever larger, inevitably many of us will indulge in a bit of navel gazing. We will look at our flaws, faults, bad habits, and failed ambitions, and resolve to do better in the future. While we all know New Year’s resolutions are far easier to make than they are to keep, it doesn’t stop us from promising ourselves a more successful, more productive and happier year than the last one.
Here are some basic tips which is very simple yet effective if you can keep your words.These are New Year’s resolutions that everyone should make — and that any man can manage. We aren’t suggesting very specific aims; rather, these are designed to make you think about what you really want out of life and you should interpret them in a way that is appropriate to you.
1. Nurture yourself
Self care is very important. Set up some time to be by yourself, just by yourself. Do something that gives you peace, love, and joy with yourself. You can nurture yourself physically by exercising and consuming healthy food. You can nurture yourself emotionally by listening to love songs, painting, or helping others in need. As you give yourself to others and offer help, you receive the gift of love back. You feel good about yourself because you live your life on purpose. You can nurture yourself mentally by reading your favorite books. You can nurture yourself spiritually by doing meditation. Even a health checkup though you don’t have any symptoms is not a bad idea as it keeps you up to date about your health.
2. Make contact with family / friends more often
Yea we all are pretty busy with out lives and stuffs, do you only meet up with relatives at weddings, funerals and festivals? Well it’s time you started putting them in your social diary, so that you can make time to see them more often. By seeing your family more often you will get along better, are likely to have them return the invite by offering you to visit for tea or be the person they think of when they have something to tell.
How about when you’re planning that weekend visit to a town or city, if you have relatives that live en-route, why not drop by and see them? This way it saves you petrol and because you’re going elsewhere you have a reason to leave if you get bored. Also if you’re stuck for cash to stay over somewhere, a good relationship with relatives nearby could prove cost-effective for you can see the sights and stay over without spending extra on hotels. Obviously you shouldn’t take advantage of this, and could maybe return the favour by asking them to stay over at yours or at least wash up the breakfast pots.
3. Do what you love
Make yourself happy. What do you love to do? If you could find something that you love to do and spend time doing it, you will experience love, joy, and happiness in your heart. That is when you truly connect with your authentic self. As a result, you become happier and more loving.
It is all too easy to come home after a hard day at the office, sit on the couch and watch TV. Remember when you used to have hobbies? Start devoting time to rediscovering those activities. It is a more fulfilling way to spend your time than doing nothing, and may also allow you to meet some new people. Whether it’s a sport, a musical instrument or some incredibly obscure activity, make time for it again.
4. Forgive yourself
Don’t punish yourself for something you have done in the past. Instead, look at the mistake as a learning experience. Say to yourself now: “I forgive myself for _______.” Go look in a mirror and say it out loud to yourself. Look yourself right in the eyes and speak forgiveness like you mean it. Don’t ever demean or ridicule yourself. If you do, laugh out loud, realizing that was then and this is now. You deserve a fresh beginning! There are a lot of people out there that have had hard lives, bad beginnings/moments.
Don’t close yourself out of grief, disappointments, or fears of future ridicule. Acknowledge your feelings, but work to put them behind you. Cherish what you have learned from your challenges, and how you have changed and grown from them. Forgive those who have done you wrong.If you did something you are not proud of, resolve to never do it again, and take steps to keep it out of your mind.Don’t define yourself by what you’ve done. Celebrate your accomplishments, but let go of the things you haven’t done…yet? Remember that success is not a destination. Success is making progress (towards the desires of your heart). Accept yourself, and others will follow your lead. You are not your deeds, appearance, or bank balance.
5. Don’t let work stress you out
We all sometimes let work stress us out, whether it’s late finishing, working the weekends just to get on top of things or eating your lunch at your desk. But there are a variety of steps you can take to reduce both your overall stress levels and the stress you find on the job and in the workplace. These include:
• taking responsibility for improving your physical and emotional well-being.
• avoiding pitfalls by identifying knee jerk habits and negative attitudes that add to the stress you experience at work.
• learning better communication skills to ease and improve your relationships with management and co-workers.
6. Increase your savings
Everyone is feeling the pinch but it doesn’t take much to put aside some money for a rainy day or to just treat yourself. It doesn’t have to be big – it can simply be tiny amount. This is a quick way of getting your money to mount up with minimal effort. It can actually be quite addictive, as you’ll find yourself swapping coins with friends and even emptying your purse of the loose change.
Set yourself a small achievable goal, pin photos of the item around the house and this will jolt your memory as to what you’re saving for. Leave your credit cards in the freezer. Withdraw cash out each week and don’t use your bank card for any purchases – that way you’re in control of your spending.
7. Practice saying “No”
It is okay to say “no” to people when you do not feel like doing something. Do not feel guilty about it. Just realize that you have the right to do so. This is different from doing things out of love. If you do things out of love, and your heart wants to do them, that is a different story. When your heart does not want to do it, and you feel like you have to please someone, and make others happy by over-extending yourself. Learning how to say “no” is an art. It takes practice. You might say “Thank you for asking. I am not ready to commit to doing anything right now.” You cannot please everyone. When you say “no”, remember to smile sincerely and say “no” gracefully.
8. Stop trying to be perfect
Stop comparing yourself to others. Everyone on this earth is unique. We all have different gifts. When you compare yourself to others, it makes you feel bad about yourself. When you compare yourself to others for what they have, whether it is a car, a house, a mate, children, money, or a job, it makes you feel low self esteem, lose your confidence, and perhaps depressed, envious or jealous.
A way to stop comparing yourself to others is by focusing on your own strength. Get to know yourself, and discover what your greatest gift is that you are meant to share with the world. Another great way is by practicing gratitude.Stop criticizing yourself for being less then perfect. Be happy for what you have. Really be grateful about everything that you have; people in your life, job, relationships, material, etc. Gratitude keeps your heart open to love. No one is quite like you. Just be you. Be grateful for being the wonderful you. Do the best you can. Be the best you can and love yourself more. Then, you have more love to give to others.
9. Good deeds
It’s best to think of doing a good deed a day to get yourself into the routine of thinking about others. It doesn’t have to be something that is a grand gesture. Simply saying ‘hello’ to someone who looks sad or holding the door open for someone in a rush, and even giving up your seat to allow an older person / less able person to sit. One small act of kindness creates a ripple that spreads and grows. Moments – not merchandise – make memories. A simple act of kindness can stop us in our tracks. And turn our lives around. Do the Deed is about attitude and action. Sometimes it just means being a bit more aware.
Less wrapped up in our individual lives, racing from here to there, mobile devices clutched to our ears. It could be as simple as looking the cashier in the eye and smiling when he hands us our change. Or seeing a mom struggle to get her groceries and children in the car – and stepping up to provide a hand. We’re not suggesting that being nicer to one another will cure all the world’s ills – but acknowledging people, giving them respect, showing them a little kindness – it can be transformative. If our personal experiences teach us anything, it’s that change starts in the heart.
10. Go travelling
It’s not always easy to book the amount of time off needed from work to go exploring. But how about saving your holidays for out of season times to get an extended break when everyone else is able to cover your work? And if cost is a huge factor on enabling you to travel, book in advance and opt for hostels instead of hotels. If choosing where to go is causing you problems then how about starting small, and nearby before planning a long back-pack adventure. You could always start by visiting you own towns and cities if international trips are not suitable then. You will have built up an ‘I’ve been there, done that and bought the t-shirt’ collection in no time.Plus, you will learn about different culture and way of life that may inspire you for a new beginning.
Now two important clues
• First, if you set goals that are measurable and/or set a target time to complete the resolution, you will be more likely to keep your resolutions.
• Second, if you share your resolutions with others (family friends) and show them a list of your resolutions, they will support you and help you keep the promises you make.
Good luck for 2071 and Happy New Year!